149-Ask Me: People Pleasing: How to Stop Being a People-Pleaser

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How to Stop Being a People-Pleaser

Are you a people-pleaser? Where did that come from? How did you become one?

These are the questions you have to ask yourself to be able to know how to stop being a people-pleaser.

But, what is a people-pleaser? A people-pleaser is one of the nicest and most helpful people you know. They never say “no.” You can always count on them for a favor. In fact, they spend a great deal of time doing things for other people. They get their work done, help others with their work, make all the plans, and are always there for family members and friends.
That’s the mother who says “I don’t have time to implement this change in my life because I have to take their activities and competition on the weekend. It’s just doesn’t fit in my schedule.

So far this sounds like a good thing. Right?

Unfortunately, it can be an extremely unhealthy pattern of behavior. It leads to shying away from expressing themselves, and ultimately, not taking care of themselves…

If this is you, and you want to stop focusing on others and making you a priority without feeling guilty. You gotta listen to this episode.

In this episode I discuss 

  • What is people-pleasing?
  • What does a people-pleaser look like?
  • The origin of people-pleasing of an individual and why it’s so critical to healing it
  • The side effects of people-pleasing to you 
  • The 5-Step solution on how to stop being a people-pleaser
    1. Remind yourself that most other human beings can cope with opposition, emotions, and viewpoint.
    2. Realize what people-pleasing is costing you and others
    3. Work on your self-confidence. 
    4. Realize that avoiding problems is just another form of self-sabotage. 
    5. Work on self-acceptance.

Last episode was a case study on Carol’s, the recipient of the last term’s Going Beyond the Food Academy scholarship. journey beyond the food and how it resolved her food issues. She answered questions on how the Beyond the Food Method has changed her perspective on food and how it impacted her life in general including her relationships to others and, most importantly, to herself. She also shared the top 5 things she learned in the Going Beyond the Food Academy that were pivotal to her mindset shift and transformation.

Take a listen to this insightful interview and understand the power of investing in yourself and taking action to create meaningful transformation toward your goal and improve your quality of life. Click here. 

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