If you want things to change yet continue to repeat the same patterns, you’re doomed to suffer the same consequences over and over… until you learn to be responsible vs blaming yourself.
Instead of taking responsibility, we can fall into the trap of blaming others or ourselves for not getting the results we want.
Being Responsible VS Blaming Yourself
Blaming is when you want to find someone or something to hold responsible for the current situation you are experiencing, which can include blaming yourself. In most cases, when something or someone is held accountable, the end product is punishment. For example, self-critical thinking is a form of mental punishment.
Self-Responsibility, on the other hand, is being aware of your patterns and the results they are creating and taking courageous responsibility to create a different outcome.
How To Take Self-Responsibility
At first, taking responsibility can be challenging. You may get your back up and feel the need to defend yourself. Following these three steps can support you in moving forward a lot faster:
- Develop self-compassion– Understand that self-blame is a learned behaviour and a by-product of diet culture. Blaming yourself or someone else was an act of survival, but it’s no longer serving you. You now have an opportunity to create something different for yourself.
- Reflect on how you contributed to the events unfolding in your life. Empowerment replaces victimization (“why-me” or “life is so unfair” mindset) in understanding that you have a part to play. Ask yourself: What results am I responsible for in my life?
- Accept that all you have control over is your thoughts and behaviours. Blaming others will lead to disempowerment. Empower yourself by taking radical self-responsibility on the things you have control over.
Ultimately, being responsible vs blaming yourself will create different results in your life.
What you’ll learn listening to this episode:
- How to stop the pattern of doing the same thing over and over while expecting different results
- The difference between self-responsibility and self-blame
- Three steps to take radical responsibility for creating a big, bold life