Today, we are talking about the impatience of “getting there,” of finally feeling better about our bodies or something that I often hear, finally eating better.
Have you ever felt impatient when trying to reach your goal? Repeating things like, “Why aren’t I there yet?” “What’s wrong with me?” and “I should be there already!”
Impatience Creates Suffering
When we are impatient with reaching a goal, it can result in rebellious behavior and unnecessary suffering. For instance, this happened in my personal intuitive eating journey. Even though I was prepared that I would eventually swing to the other side of the restrictive pendulum, I judged being there. I judged the process of swinging to the other side, which resulted in me staying in that rebellious eating phase much longer than I wanted to.
I thought that the moment I stopped the pendulum swing, I would finally feel better about myself. I would finally feel good enough.
It wasn’t the wishing of the pendulum to stop swinging that made it eventually stop. It stopped swinging when I finally welcomed compassion and acceptance that I was never going to be perfect. I needed to believe that I was still good enough while on the rebellious side of the pendulum.
Impatience to Eat Better: The Purpose of a Goal
The way to achieve a goal is not by believing your life will be better only after you reach said goal, which is what creates impatience.
The purpose of a goal is not to relieve us of the suffering we are experiencing right now. Its purpose is to change the relationship we have with ourselves.
Our happiness can’t be conditional on achieving the goal. When we engage in our goals that way, we miss the opportunity to build a belief in ourselves. The container of a goal helps you master the human experience every day. You have a choice to change the way you set and attain your goals which allows you to feel better today.
I teach all the students of Undiet Your Life how to clean up their goals using the liberated goal method. This method is what makes achieving goals fun, easy and pleasurable.
Who you are is enough. What you are doing is enough. Your job is to create your best life now and believe that your goal will eventually happen.
What you’ll learn listening to this episode on impatience to eat better:
- Why being impatient in reaching your goal is causing more suffering
- The real reason we set goals
- The revolutionized process of achieving your goals in a fun, easy, and pleasurable way
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