THE FEMINIST WELL-BEING PODCAST

268-My Goals for 2021

Dec 29, 2020 | Featured Podcast Episode, Mindset Podcast Episode | 0 Comments

My Goals for 2021

Over the last few episodes

#264- Health goals versus Weight loss goals

#266- Goal Setting

#267- Willing to be Willing

I have been teaching you some key concepts to integrate in your process of setting goals to ensure you set goals that are diet-culture-free.

Today’s episode is going to be a wrap-up on the theme of setting goals. My intention for this episode is to illustrate how you can use these goal-setting concepts in real life. Plus the potential of result you can experience. To do this, I’m going to use my own life and my goal setting journey over the last 8 years.

I’ve never done an episode like this one before where I share my own reflection on the year and my goals… it’s going to be one of those vulnerable episodes.

Ready to come on this journey with me?

What you’ll learn listening to this episode on my goals for 2021:

The reflective process for 2020
The 6 questions to use to reflect on 2020
My 4 lessons learned in 2020
The goals I have for 2021

Mentioned on the show:

Reflection questions to review your year 2020:

What forced change have I come to appreciate?
Which new habit have I adopted?
Which actions have I performed to maintain my physical and mental health?
Did I manage to impose some boundaries in my life?
What did I discover about myself?
What am I proud of?

267-Willing To Be Willing

Dec 22, 2020 | Mindset Podcast Episode | 0 Comments

You willing to be willing?

“Nothing is easy for the unwilling.”

When we set a goal or desire to change an aspect of our life or self, we often get “stuck” into inaction.

The fear of taking action in the unknown and the paralysis into stagnation is normal. It’s present for most of us women. This fear is a normal reaction from our brain to command us into staying put instead of moving ourselves into the unknown.

It’s our brain’s duty to prevent us from taking action.

To create any new result in your life: becoming an intuitive eater, accepting our body, career advancement,… ANY CHANGE.

Being willing to be willing

You have to be willing to do two things:

Feel your emotions
Change your perspective on failure

And if you are unwilling to face your fears and emotions, then forward progress on improving your quality of life will not be easy.

You have to be willing to tell your brain: Hey brain, I get it, it’s your job to keep me safe and avoid the unknown & anxiety of newness, but moving forward, I’m willing to feel these emotions because I really want what’s on the other side. The new result.

That’s what we call managing your brain. First module inside Conquer and Thrive.

As women, we are socialized to be good girls. To be perfect. To obey the rules and perform them perfectly. That’s why we unconsciously chase the thin ideal. We’ve been told over and over by our mom, that is the gold standards body type as women. So as good girls we chase that perfection… relentlessly even if it makes us feel terrible.

To motivate this relentless chase of perfection, women are socialized to see failure as the most terrible thing that can happen to us. Any failure in our relentless pursuit of perfection means that we aren’t worthy and that we have failed dieting.

Questions to ask ourselves to become willing

I’ll be leaving you with these thoughts to reflect on:

Are you willing to redefine failure?

Are you willing to see the fear-based thoughts your brain will offer you when thinking about the new goal and be the observer of these thoughts?

How about being willing to see it’s not your thoughts but the socialization thoughts from patriarchy and diet culture?

Are you willing to feel the fear that your brain will present to you and still take action towards your goal?

Are you willing to take a chance on yourself?

How about being willing to bet on yourself that you too can achieve THIS new goal?

Are you willing to be willing to have the intention to be willing to be willing?

Are you willing to be willing to bet on yourself?

If you are, we here for you, sister… come and join us inside Conquer and Thrive and we will support you in your journey of being willing.

What you’ll learn listening to this episode:

Why the perfect next step from podcast 266 – Goal Setting
You are not your body or your brain…
The two elements needed to create new result in your life
Why women have a faulty concept of failure
How we can start to be willing to be willing

Mentioned on the show:

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266-Goal Setting

Dec 17, 2020 | Mindset Podcast Episode | 0 Comments

Goal Setting

Smart Goals are to goal setting what dieting is to Diet Culture.

For years, I set goals the diet Culture way… you know, the SMART GOALS. Every year the pattern repeated itself. Give up by the 5th week.

Just like diet culture, SMART goals are anchored on external results, accomplishment of actions, grounded into avoidance of failure and perfectionism. It’s archaic, sexist and builds on elitist principles.

Just like dieting doesn’t work, SMART goals do not work because it disregards how humans function. It requires constant willpower, which we know to be a limited resource, so when willpower runs out, action-driven goal setting techniques stop working.

In today’s episode, we are going to discover the right way of setting goals for women: the diet-culture-free way to set goals.

What you’ll learn listening to this episode:

Why SMART goals don’t work
How I created my life against all odds
My business success in 2020 in the middle of a pandemic
What is the diet-culture-free goal-setting process

Mentioned on the show:

Free Guide from Unyime

265-Mom’s Guilt with Unyime Oguta

Dec 10, 2020 | Mindset Podcast Episode | 0 Comments

Mom’s Guilt

“It feels terrible as a mom to put yourself first… it’s easy to say self-care when you don’t have kids”.

This is such a sensitive topic for moms… Me, the single woman with no kids telling them to take time for themselves.

I have avoided doing a topic on this subject because let’s face it, it’s true: I don’t get it. That’s until today…

I have a guest expert who can speak about this from a lived experience. She’s a mom of 3 kids under 12, with a professional career and now starting a business.

Unyime gets it.

Unyime Oguta is our guest today. She’s a Non-Diet Nutritionist, Certified Intuitive Eating Counselor and a student of mine. She’s just about to graduate from our Non-Diet Mentorship program.

What you’ll learn listening to this episode on mom’s guilt:

Why balance is B.S…
The disease of “Shoulding yourself”
The toxicity of “getting your body back”…
How to no longer feel guilty around taking care of yourself
The way to feed my family healthy while trusting my children’s choices
How to do self-care as a mom

Mentioned on the show:

Website and Free Guide

Connect with our guest:

Instagram

Facebook

PRO SERIES: Non-diet Q&A S2 EP8

Dec 9, 2020 | Non-Diet Professional Podcast Episode | 0 Comments

Non-Diet Q&A

This is going to be a fun episode…

I’m answering 25 questions our listeners have submitted. Short to the point answer on all subjects related to the non-diet approach…

You’ll get an answer for each of these 25 non-diet approach & business questions.

You keep referring to PROs... I’m a health coach so I’m not a professional right?
How do I make money as a non-diet coach? How do I create a stable income so I have no doubt in my income?
I can’t launch my BIZ until I’m perfect in my IE and BI?
How to convince my clients this is the right approach?
How do I reassure my clients that it’s ok not to diet?
How do I figure out my ideal client and how do I speak to them?
Simple marketing process, please…
How to answer body image questions?
Because of COVID, people aren’t willing to buy anything, should I wait to launch my BIZ?
Scope of practice?
I’ve never been on a diet but I eat whole food and organic food. Or I make healthy choices normally? Can I teach intuitive eating?
How do I find a scientific way to promote IE?
How do I incorporate nutrition science in IE?
Outline a 1-1 session with a client?
How do you present a problem to a client without being insensitive?
I’m afraid they are going to think I think it’s all in their head?
How much free stuff do I need to give?
How do I use my communication to get more clients?
Quality versus quantity marketing?
How do I get myself out there?
How do I get my clients to see value in me as a coach?
Covid is making things challenging? Nothing I can do…
I have a tendency to make things complicated… how do I resist it?
I’m on social media and nothing is happening… Why?
If a client doesn’t reach her goals, what does it mean about me as a coach?

Ready? Let’s do this Non-Diet Q&A!

Mentioned in the show:

264-Health Goal versus Weight Loss Goal

Dec 3, 2020 | Mindset Podcast Episode | 0 Comments

Health Goal versus Weight Loss Goal

The end of a year in our current culture serves as a point of reflection: what went well, what didn’t go so well, for me what I’ve learned….what we accomplished and then we also use this time to set ourselves goals, objective, intention for the new year. This process of reflection and intention setting is a very powerful process for us and should be done.

Dec 1 is typically the date when the real hardcore holiday marketing frenzy takes over mass media, and right now, we’re about to be hit by New year’s resolutions, new year’s diets… lose the COVID 19…

Our bodies and our health will not be spared in the process.

We will be hard press to set weight loss goals, just like every year. Some messages will be direct: weight loss directly while others will be about our health with an undertone of “ If you focus on your health, you will lose the unhealthy weight”…

I call this the politically correct way to focus on weight loss.

Maybe it’s the narrative in your own mind… you don’t need marketing to get yourself to think about setting “body” goals for 2021.

This podcast intends to explore both sides of the coin to make an educated decision for yourself.

Although published in December, this podcast is relevant all year. Now, because a great proportion of us use the new year period to reflect on the past and future, I thought this might help many of you think thru your “body” goals for 2021.

Let’s do this!

What you’ll learn listening to this episode on health goal versus weight loss goal:

How to define health sustainably
Why we desire to lose weight
What it means to chase health

Mentioned on the show:

Feminism & Diet Culture Article

Health Beyond Dieting Article

Study

PRO Series: Non-Diet Business Mindset S2 EP7

Dec 1, 2020 | Non-Diet Professional Podcast Episode | 0 Comments

Non-Diet Business Mindset

The Non-Diet Business Mindset discourse is vastly different from the traditional business mindset discourse you might have heard.

Why?

Simply because the same system of oppression that is in place to keep women stuck in diet culture is present in the business world.

One of our guest expert teachers, Dr. Michelle Mazur is Ph.D. in sales psychology as an expert coined the term “Bro Marketing” to describe this phenomenon.

This episode gets very heated… there are 3 solid rants that may trigger you. I want you to remember that triggers are only a sign for us to look deeper and see where we can upgrade and grow.

Ready? Let’s do this!

What you’ll learn listening to this episode:

9 Business Mindset Tips the non-diet way
Why mindset is the most important aspect of our business as non-diet practitioners
What does it mean to put our feminist hat on in our business
The #1 enemy of your business growth is not what you think

Mentioned in the show

Conquer & Thrive Professional Limited Edition

The Motivation Secret

263-Healing Our Relationship to Exercise with Kim Hagle

Nov 26, 2020 | Lifestyle Podcast Episode, Mindset Podcast Episode | 0 Comments

My journey with exercise has been chaotic for most of my life.

From childhood “mandatory” sports to not being picked for team sports in junior high school because I was “too big”.

And as an adult, being shamed into overdoing exercise by the diet gurus as the way to “burn fat” quick and maintain weight loss.

With every wave of dieting came the sentence of “no pain no gain” excessive exercise patterns to the point of injury.

In fact, dieting really screwed up my relationship to exercise as much as it f*cked up my relationship to food.

Healing our Relationship to Exercise

I couldn’t understand how people could enjoy, let alone love exercising.

From the age of 12, my relationship to exercise has been about managing my body.

Exercise is something I had to do along with food restriction because my body was bad.

Exercise was punishment.

So how can you enjoy something that is designed to hurt you and make you pay for you being “bad” for not having the body you should have?

When I first entered the world of Health At Every Size and Intuitive Eating, the concept of Joyful Movement sent me straight into cognitive dissonance.

And then I quickly realized that as much work I needed to do to change how I perceived food and my food habits, I needed to do the same work with exercise.

Being intentional about healing my relationship to exercise

I had to make a conscious decision to heal my relationship to exercise.

I stopped waiting for prince charming to come and fix it all. If I were going to ever find joy in moving my body, I had to be intentional.

Diet culture might have f*cked how I see exercise but it was up to me to unf*ck it.

My first step was swapping the word Exercise with Movement. Seems too simple, but for me that was a game-changer. The word exercise was recalling very traumatic memories for me. The word movement was neutral.

With neutrality, I was able to accept possibilities. Possibilities that movement could be one that is joyful. That I could see me moving my body because I wanted to not because I had to.

Wanting to move my body versus I have to exercise. That was a thought I practiced for months. With time, it worked. I started to desire to go for a walk for just pure pleasure and how it made me feel.

I practice minimum baseline and then use movement as a way to build a relationship of trust and respect with myself.

Moreover, I use self-coaching to change my thoughts and beliefs about moving my body.

Today, I only move my body if it makes feels good and makes me feel happy. I walk. I practice yoga.

In this episode of the podcast, Kim Hagle, a mom of four and non-diet fitness expert, is going to help us heal our relationship to exercise.

Kim hosts The Joyful Movement Show podcast and through her signature program Right Body for Me, she helps women discover joyful movement and motivation that lasts so they can heal their relationship to exercise and feel confident in their own skin.

What you’ll learn listening to this episode:

How Kim went from being picked on by other kids to being a fitness professional
The difference between movement and exercise
Is the gym police a problem for you?
The 10 principles of Joyful Movement
How to find motivation without punishment or “no pain no gain”…

Mentioned on the show:

The Joyful Movement Podcast

Connect with our guest:

Website

Instagram

Facebook

PRO SERIES: Body Image Health Coaching for Women S2 EP6

Nov 24, 2020 | Non-Diet Professional Podcast Episode | 0 Comments

Body Image Health Coaching for Women

78% of professionals have said they are struggling with their own body image.

8% of you have said you were at peace with your body.

That’s the result of our yearly survey within our professional community.

That’s how this new podcast episode was born.

From a need for our community to do their personal work with body image because the only way you can effectively coach other women into healing their body image is for you to heal your own first.

Just like we see on our client population struggling with poor body image has a wide range of effects in all aspects of our life including our business:

Lack of confidence to show up to market your business
Questioning yourself all the time
Think something is wrong and or your business
No big ambitious plan for your business
Playing small
Perfectionism trying to make for your own perceived flaws
Fixated on the appearance of your business instead of bodywork
Difficult time doing hard things
….

Ready to learn what you need to do to heal your body image as a health professional so that you can lead thousands of women?

PS: I think this one of my best podcasts! 😀

What you’ll learn listening to this episode on body image health coaching for women:

Why we struggle with body image
The impact of not being liberated from body image to you personally and on your business
Why helping and coaching women through body image healing isn’t about the how…
The stages of healing body image

Mentioned in the show:

Conquer & Thrive Professional Limited Edition

Stephanie’s roadmap to get started

262-Other People’s Diet

Nov 19, 2020 | Mindset Podcast Episode | 0 Comments

Other People’s Diet

What to do when others talk about dieting when I’m trying to stop?

How to not be jealous of other people’s weight loss?

How to handle my mom’s comment on my body?

What about my family at gatherings and holidays so triggering?

Can you relate?

Although this episode was created around the American Thanksgiving holiday, this is applicable all-year-round.

It’s good for family BBQs, friends dinners, office breakroom, or the Zoom room (2020 joke lol!), night out with girls… anytime, all the time!

It’s a gem of an episode! You’ll want to replay it many times.

What you’ll learn listening to this episode:

Why you react when other people comment on your body
How to not feel shame when other people comment on your body
How to stop reacting when other people talk about diets & dieting
The way you can change your core beliefs so you never again feel shame

Mentioned on the show on other people’s diet:

Undiet Your Life

PRO Series: How to Get Started in Your Non-Diet Business S2 EP5

Nov 17, 2020 | Non-Diet Professional Podcast Episode | 0 Comments

How to Get Started in Your Non-Diet Business

You have a degree or certification in hands and you are ready to get started.

Or perhaps you’ve spent the last few years recovering your own relationship to food and body and you have a burning desire to share your journey with others.

This podcast is for you!

Our guest today is Stephanie Long, a Business Coach for Nutritionists and has helped hundreds of nutritionists start their own successful businesses. Stephanie is also the host of Next Level Nutrition Biz podcast. Her program, Launch Your Nutrition Biz, helps Nutritionists to launch their business and start bringing on clients!

What you’ll learn listening to this episode on how to get started with your non-diet business

Top 3 mistakes new practitioners make when starting their business
The 5 things to consider when starting a new business
The roadmap to starting your new practice

Mentioned in the show: