Wishful Thinking is the formation of beliefs based on what might be pleasing to imagine rather than on reality, evidence, FACTS. It’s usually grown from fear. We don’t resort to Wishful Thinking because it works. We resort to Wishful Thinking because it allows us to avoid confronting our fear.   

Wishing Thinking is when you want something to be true even when it’s not true, like the fantasy of the thin ideal. Think of all the years we pursue dieting… The endless “on and off” diet cycle always lands right back in the same place. 

Wishful thinking Trap

Wishful Thinking creates a trap. This is when we maintain the belief that the next diet will work even the last 5 didn’t (if you’re like more like a dozen!)  

Instead of being objective in our Thinking, we fantasize about how much our life will be better once we start this next diet. 

We Indulge in fantasy thinking. 

We keep the “thin” clothes in our closet and perhaps even hang the little red dress as a “motivator.” We avoid coming face to face with our small day-to-day problems, and instead, we bury them in avoidance. We get lost in the magical Thinking that once we lose weight… all of these little annoyances will go away. 

It’s easier to think about fantasies than to think about reality

The reality is that you were thin before, yet here you are today with the same problems, feeling the same anxious feelings… and oh, the last 5 diets didn’t work either! 

And you’re about to start all over again… Still placing a hold on living your life, chasing your dreams. 

And all you have for evidence that this time will be different is the “dream” that diet culture is selling you… 

Wishful Thinking is the trap that prevents you from seeing the reality that food restriction doesn’t work, and all bodies are good bodies. 

The solution is objective Thinking. 

What you’ll learn listening to this episode:

• How Wishful Thinking presents itself in our lives 
• The companion to wishful Thinking; Magical Thinking 
• The illusion of diet culture 
• The power of objective Thinking

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Having your own back is a skill we are born with.  

Think of a toddler learning to walk; That baby will get back up with every fall down. You’ll not see a toddler sitting on the floor, wondering if they should get up and learn to walk. 

Just like self-love, having our own back is often unlearned in favor of self-criticism. 

But we can relearn to have our own back! 

Having our own back 

Learning to have your own back is the process of developing an internal culture of unconditional self-compassion  

It is being your own best friend and treating yourself in a respectful and supportive way. 

Having your own back means that no matter what, you will fight for your own potential, not limitations as imposed by diet culture or patriarchy.   

Learning to have your own back is training your brain to make the choice to have your own back. 

• It’s about choosing to see the possibilities in your own damn self 
• It’s about choosing to believe in yourself 
• Understanding that failure is an opportunity to learn – failure capacity 

What you’ll learn listening to this episode: 

• What it means to have your own back 
• Where did we learn NOT to have our own back
• What happens when you learn to have your own back 
• How to have your own back

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Marie Kondoing your thoughts 

I want you to think of the process of undieting your brain of all the diet culture thoughts and beliefs, like Marie kondioing your mind. 

Undiet Your Life is the act of decluttering your mind from all the thoughts that are no longer serving you, that no longer spark joy, happiness and ease for you. 

Marie Kondoing your thoughts 

You’ve picked thoughts all along your life, and up until now, you have kept them. Now, you have a mind filled with thoughts that create anxiety, perfectionism, black-and-white thinking, and fear. 

Thoughts are like the clutter Marie Kondo is coaching people to purge… You can purge your old thoughts too.   

What you’ll learn listening to this episode: 

• Why Marie Kondo is such a brilliant analogy for undieting your brain 
• Learning to respect your old thoughts 
• How to declutter your mind 
• Developing a critical lens for intentional thinking

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Do you believe in diet culture more than you believe in yourself?

For example, do you believe that your own level of self-confidence is an outcome of the size of your body? Or your beauty? Or the amount of wrinkles you own? 

Or maybe you appreciate that for others, it’s possible to be confident at any size, and you admire the women who do but that for you it’s impossible. 

Do you believe that for you, it’s impossible to have a peaceful relationship with sugar? Do you secretly believe that something is wrong with your body and that sugar has this unbreakable grip on you that makes it impossible to control?

Do you believe that your habits around exercise and movement are the outcome of your own lack of self-discipline? That if you weren’t so lazy, you’d go for a walk more often?

And I’ll extend this to circumstances outside of food and body… because diet culture beliefs affect your life beyond food.

Maybe you believe that your career is stalled because of your inability to be perfect enough or produce enough work to meet your boss’s standards?

Perhaps you stop yourself from applying for your dream job because your know you are not qualified enough? That other people have so much more to offer than you.

These are all diet culture beliefs.

Believing in yourself more than diet culture

Diet culture beliefs do not support your amazingness, your goodness, and your brilliance.

Diet Culture beliefs have been manufactured in order to create self-doubt in women, feeling of victimhood, distrust with self and disempowerment.

In order to believe in yourself and the possibilities that can be present for you in your life, you need to have beliefs that support this amazingness, goodness that is in you now. That’s what we are going to explore in this episode of our podcast.

What you’ll learn listening to this episode:

• The diet culture beliefs that stop you from believing in yourself
• The process of deepening your self-beliefs
• Believing it’s possible for you to change
• 10 non-diet culture beliefs that can transform your life

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Undiet Your Life