As you read this, I’m on plane…
Covid test negative and submitted, vaccination report filled, a year supply of mask and disinfectant in my backpack check.
Today, Sunday, December 12th, 2021, I’m making one of my audacious goals a reality.
Me… Stephanie… a single 46-year-old fat woman: I’m travelling to South America alone.
I’m now working location-free. I’m a digital nomad. I’m a traveler.
My brain has so many loud opinions (aka thoughts) as to why realizing this goal is wrong, why as a fat woman I should be enjoying life, why publicly sharing my goal achievement could make people dislike me, how people I’ll meet while travelling will judge me, how it’s dangerous to travel alone as a woman, blah blah blah…
So many thoughts…. but fortunately, I have a coach that reminded me that thoughts are not facts. That all the B.S. thoughts my brain was producing was just an attempt from my reptilian brain to keep me safe away from the discomfort of growth and change.
The last years have been a succession of yearly goals aimed at undieting my life and saying hell no to social constructs:
- Must actively try to lose weight or at least appear to be (because your body size is not “normal”) Must eat “perfectly” to offset my inability to be “normal body size.”
- Must wear black clothes to blend in and not stand out
- Must hide my fat body as a nutritionist as this may negatively impact your career
- Must aim to be the perfect coach and exceed expectations so that people don’t judge me
- and now Must hold back living your dream life as it may upset people (or at least don’t make it public)
I was told that adhering to these social constructs would make me safe and guarantee a life of ease and happiness… but it never did. Trust me, not for lack of trying to meet these standards, lol!
Instead, it turned me into a binge eater, self-critical and self-hating person (with a side of anxiety, panic attacks and chronic pain, lol).
It takes courage and resilience to say no more… to undiet your life.
I back out booking the one-way flight (yup, don’t know when I’ll be back) multiple times.
I closed the tab at least 5 times when trying to book the space I’ll live in for the first 6 weeks.
Friday, December 10th, I almost cancelled the whole thing because of covid… my brain was working hard searching for every reason possible why this shouldn’t happen.
But here I’m on a plane… telling you about it.
So your turn to set an audacious goal and start taking action.
Trust that you can do it… be your # 1 supporter.
I can tell you that having your own back feels f*cking good. And it’s only the beginning.
I’ll be sharing snippets of it on my Instagram stories. Curious? Follow me, and we can chat.
Stephanie Dodier CNP (she/her)
P.S. Stop the food obsession and body dissatisfaction drama! It is optional. You can be a “normal eater” and live a good life with your now body.
Now, it’s not going to “just happen”… you are going to have to unlearn a shit load of false information and break a few paradigms on the way.
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